I have had a blog post rolling around in my head for a number of weeks lately. It’s not a “feel good” kind of post. I suppose it more matches the Pour Your Heart Out over at Things I Can’t Say. So I plan to link it up over there. If you have something you need to get off your chest that is the place to do it. Warning: this post will consist of a little anger, a lot of attitude and probably quite a bit of sarcasm. And it will be directed at the U.S. Government. I’m sure I can safely say noone in the U.S. Government reads my blog but if they did then they would be getting a piece of my mind today.
A few months ago I mentioned we were beginning the process of filing for disability for me. Now I suspected the fact that I had been a stay at home mom for the last 17 years would probably greatly diminish the amount of money I would be awarded each month. Before I had Michael I worked regularly for approximately 6 years. About a month ago we received my yearly update from the Government telling me how many “points” or whatever I currently have “collected”. I don’t understand any of the terminology. And at this point I am too ticked off to care about learning it. The only thing I do know is that I do not qualify for disability because I have not WORKED a certain amount of time in the last 10 years or whatever. My question was “what kind of appreciation does the government give to mothers who choose to stay at home and raise good well adjusted citizens to put out into the working community for the next 50 years?” Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t expect a salary. Would be nice! But I don’t expect it. A tax benefit somehow would be nice as well.
But what about us who have spent the heart of our career age lives making our families our career? What about us when we become sick or disabled? We get no notice, appreciation, benefit or help from our government. If I divorced Ron and popped out about 7 more kids I could move downtown and live off the government then. Is that how stay at home moms have to get any benefit from our government? What do we get for raising well adjusted young people WITHOUT begging for money and free health care? What about those of us who are responsible and manage our households on our own? What happens when we get old and disabled and could use a little help in return? NOTHIN’! THAT’S WHAT! I learned because I “hadn’t worked” that I would also have to pay for my own Medicare if I wanted to benefit from it at 65. And do you think I am gonna get any SSI? Seriously?
I spend my entire life raising children and making a home for my family. I make my FAMILY my career. And does anyone in Washington give a flip? NO! It’s as if I don’t even exist. “Oh I’m sorry, you didn’t give enough to US so we aren’t giving ANYTHING to you”. Is it really too much to ask for a little benefit of some kind – a reward maybe – for NOT living off of the government for the last 17 years and NOT taking advantage of the government.
I’m just a stay at home mom who happens to now be chronically ill and could use some financial support from the government she has supported her entire adult life. Tell ya what – I’ll get that divorce and pop out a few more kids and move into the crime ridden section of my city so I can prove to WAshington that I need welfare instead of just asking for disability.
Give me a break! And give me some support! And give me some benefit for the JOB I’ve done! I doubt any of those politicians sitting around Washington could do MY job or would even WANT to do my job. But if they did do my job and then got sick I bet some kind of benefit would show up on the books for us. Try it, Senator/Congressman/President! You couldn’t do it if you tried! And you wouldn’t accept this treatment if you had to either!