I Want My Man To Be A Doer

I'm Joining the 31DBBS Challenge I’m trying to figure out why I feel led to pray all of these prayers that are supposed to be for Ron for myself! God is sneaky like that. It works that way with sermons too. When Pastor Rob is preaching and I think “so and so really needed to hear that” I’m also reminded that I AM “so and so”.

Today I am praying for obedience in Ron’s life based on James 1:22 – “Be ye doers of the word and not hearers only, deceiving yourself.” SEE WHAT I MEAN?? Did that just step on your toes too? This verse matches up perfecting with James 4:17 – “Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.” OUCH! How many times do we feel led to do or say something about Christ but clamp our mouths shut and keep quiet?

I think I need this prayer for myself as much as I need to pray it for my husband. Heavenly Father, I pray that You would impress upon my Ron’s heart his need to live in obedience to Your Word. I pray that he would understand Your all-consuming love for him and respond in obedience and worship. May his life of obedience be a reflection of his love for You. And may I never be a hindrance to his obedience to You.

I know there are times when he may feel led to do something as our family’s leader but he feels torn between leading us according to God’s will or pleasing me. I don’t want to be that stumbling block that causes him to be in disobedience to God’s leading. He is the spiritual leader of our home/family. I need to be willing to be led. I know I’m not very good at that. I know my shortcomings. And I know how he wants to please me or make the kids happy. I pray that God will give him to qualities he needs to stand firm in his obedience to the leading of the Spirit.

And, God, just smack me upside the head, ok? Thanks – that’d be great!

He’s My Job and I Love Him

I'm Joining the 31DBBS Challenge I have taken a break from writing about the 31 Days to Pray for Your Spouse challenge. However, I have not taken a break from praying. I just haven’t been writing about them.

On January 9th I prayed for his emotions based on II Corinthians 10:5 – 5 “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” Don’t you just love that a verse? Boy, how hard is it to take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ. Whew! That means you have to think before you speak. I don’t know about you but that’s hard for me. It also means you have to stop thinking negative things about self as well. My prayer is that Ron is led by the Spirit to make his thoughts the thoughts of Christ.

On January 10th I prayed for his Spiritual Growth based on Philippians 3:14 – 14 “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” That is the goal of every Christian – to keep on striving to be like Christ until one day we spend eternity with him. It’s so easy to become satisfied with the status quo in our spiritual life. I pray that Ron will always be striving to grow in his relationship with God.

On January 11th I prayed for his mind based on Romans 12:2 -” Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” This is always a challenge but I pray that as he is out in the world each day he will keep his mind focused on Christ and his will. It’s easy to listen to the lies of the world. But I pray Ron will be able to recognize the difference between the things of Christ and the things of the world and keep his focus where it should be.

And today, January 12th, I pray for his work based on Colossians 3:23 – “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,” As I’ve mentioned before, Ron is a workaholic. He is a perfectionist. He loves what he does. And to be honest, when you work for a denomination (we are FWB) it’s hard for the people of the denomination to remember that ultimately Ron works for the Lord. It’s very difficult to work the vision that God has given when the people around you are trying to throw obstacles in the way. But my prayer is that God will not only help Ron to keep his eye on what God wants him to do to lead our denomination but that the people will trust that what he does is from God. Ron is very good with partnering with others to bring a plan together. Lord, I ask that you continue to give him a vision of what you want him and our denomination to do in the future and help our people to trust him and support him.

You know – I love praying for Ron. He’s the man God gave me to be my partner in my life. It’s my job to support him, encourage him and pray for him. I love my job!

How is Your Husband’s Attitude?

Oh my! Today’s prayer that I’m praying for my husband I am also praying for myself. And boy do I need it. Actually I’ve needed all of these prayers for myself. But especially this one. If you’re not sure what I’m talking about just click on this graphic and you’ll figure it all out.

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Today’s prayer assignment is based on Philippians 2:5-7 – “Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men.” {Philippians 2.5-7, NASB} – ATTITUDE! It’s a doozey, isn’t it?

Lord, even as one’s attitude can change at the drop of a hat, I pray that Ron would have a constant attitude of humility and grace. I pray that he would have the same attitude that Christ displayed while on earth – one that seeks the best for others before thinking of himself.

There aren’t many men on my list that are as humble and gracious as my man. I could learn a lot from him. I NEED to learn a lot from him. He never does/says/preaches anything that would bring any glory to himself or shine a light on himself. He is always quick to turn the spotlight to another. He is always ready to show grace and mercy to another. I know that I have let him down more times than I can count. But he still forgives and comes to me with humility HIMSELF and extends grace to me. It takes a big person to do that.

You know, God extends his forgiveness, grace and mercy to us when we don’t deserve it. We don’t deserve an ounce of it. That is what I pray for my husband. And I pray the same for myself. I’m the first to admit that I am a long way from these qualities in my own spirit. But one thing you never have to wonder about is if Ron’s spirit lacks them. I pray the Lord will continue to minister to his heart as he has so far. I pray that God will protect his spirit and his character from any kind of pride that would injure his testimony or give him a prideful attitude.


Do You Pray for Your Husband’s Priorities?

I am still participating in the 31 Days to Pray for my spouse. I realize I haven’t posted about it for a few days. I have still been praying. I’ll catch you up here on what topics I have been praying for Ron.
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I prayed for his integrity, that he makes the right choices for himself and us, his relationships with everyone and today I pray for his priorities. Matthew 22:37 says to love the Lord with all your passion and prayer and intelligence.

Father, I pray that Ron would have a proper prioritization of his relationship with You. I pray that all other tasks, relationships, hobbies, and responsibilities would fall into a natural succession because he has the proper priority of You as being the center of his life. Help me to encourage him to spend time with You, even at the “momentary expense” of his focus on me.

Life is about relationship and a healthy life is about priorities. Our first and foremost priority should always be our relationship with God. It’s when we lose that focus that we start floundering. We start trying to please others. We start trying to be who we are not. We begin thinking more about ourselves – “why isn’t he spending time with ME” “doesn’t she understand how that makes ME feel” “Going to church takes too much of MY time” “Sunday mornings are the only time I have to sleep in”…you get the idea! But think of how it would be if we focus on our relationship with God first. We could be better spouses to one another. We’d certainly be less selfish. If we pray for our husbands to have his priorities in proper line we can be sure that God is leading him and he can properly lead his family.

Where are MY priorities? Do I make God number one on my list? Do I put myself above his will in my life? Do you? Do I make myself my own idol? The Bible says if I put ANYTHING ahead of God then it becomes my idol. And God is a jealous God. He wants and expects us to put him first. How else will we know what his will is for ourselves, our relationships and our families? We should all be praying that our husband’s priorities are in the correct order.

The Strongest Man In The World

Today is Day 3 of the 31 Days to Pray for Your Spouse Challenge. The challenge is set to continue for the month of January. I must say that after just 2 1/2 days of praying for Ron has softened my spirit to him. Ron and I have been extremely close and connected for a long time. But this challenge is making a difference in my spirit. Thank you, Ashley, for writing the E-Book and creating this challenge to start off the new year. If you are interested in joining in just click the graphic below and it will take you to the challenge website with instructions.
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Today’s theme is Strength based on Philippians 4:13 – “For I can do all things through Christ, who gives me strength”. While I’m sure that my man is the strongest man in the world I still pray for not only his physical strength but for his emotional and mental strength. His job is very demanding on him both mentally and physically. I know he gets so tired. He loves his job though. And he loves taking care of our home and doing his own yard work. He’s also working on his PhD. He travels a lot for his job and then once every 6 weeks he spends 4 days in Dallas at Dallas Baptist University attending classes. He’s such a perfectionist and never takes anything less than the best in anything he does. His immune system is challenged a lot because of the amount of stress he is always under. He is the hardest worker I know. He loves his job and does it with excellence, as with everything else.

I pray that the Lord will keep him healthy, give him emotional encouragement, the physical stamina he needs every day whether he is at home or on the road and the mental energy he needs to do his job to the level of excellence he expects.

Do you pray for your spouses physical strength? With my health as it is, NOT GOOD, I am unable to work. But Ron is the most amazing provider. I know that men find their identity in their ability to provide for their family. I pray I am the encouragement I need to be for him. He is such an incredible care giver as well. I want to be what God wants me to be as a wife to my man. There isn’t a person on earth who loves him more than me. As I pray for him each day I also pray that the Lord will help me to be the helpmeet Ron needs.

The Salvation of Your Spouse

Today is Day 2 in the 31 Days to Pray for Your Spouse challenge. Click on this button to read about the challenge and join in:
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Day 2 is to pray for my spouse’s salvation. Ron has been a Christian since he was a child. While I was not there in his living room the day he invited Christ into his heart his life exhibits Christ in all areas of his life. There is just nothing like having a Christian husband to guide and lead our family. I believe a Christian young lady needs to marry a strong Christian man to lead her spiritually. The Bible is clear what the husband’s job is in the family unit. Ephesians 5:23 says “The husband providesleadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing.” Ephesians 5:25 says “Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, no getting.” How can a man properly understand his role, as it is required of him by God, if he doesn’t read the Bible or serve Christ as a Christian.

But what do you do if you are already married and you did not marry a Christian man? Exactly what the purpose of this challenge for January is – pray! God addresses this subject as well in I Peter 3:1,2 – “…you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.” Live a righteous life and pray for the salvation of your husband. It’s important to remember though that you are not his Holy Spirit. All you can do is live according to the Word before him and allow the Holy Spirit to do the convicting.

There is so much to say on this topic. So much to consider. So many passages to share. But the heart of today’s challenge is to pray for the salvation of your spouse. If you are unsure about your spouse’s relationship with Christ – PRAY! Let God do his mighty work. Be an example of what a Christian should be. God can make miracles happen. And he can use your prayers to bring it about.


31 Days To Pray For Your Spouse – Day 1

If you look down on my sidebar you will see a button for a challenge I am starting today. I’ve been planning for this one for a couple of weeks – ever since I saw Ashley Pichea posted about it on her Twitter – 31 Days to Pray for Your Spouse. It goes along with her E-Book. Click on this button and check it out:
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So today is Day 1 – My Heart! And honestly how can you pray effectively for someone else if your heart is not as it should be? My goal is to be what God would have me be so I can be what my husband needs. The key verse for today is Isaiah 64:8 – Still, God, you are our Father. We’re the clay and you’re our potter: All of us are what you made us. (MSG) We must be malleable clay in the hands of the potter. So I pray God will cleanse my heart – wipe away the selfishness, bitterness and sin that is crowding out the love, forgiveness and unselfishness. Make my heart as white as snow, Lord. My ultimate prayer, Lord, can be found in your Word. Psalm 51:10 – Create in me a clean heart, o God. Renew a lyoal spirit within me.

Could your spouse use a few prayers? If you say no then you should probably think again. Who doesn’t need prayer? I have found my heart changes about a person when I pray for them. I learned that lesson years ago. I’m thankful for this little challenge to remind me.