Try Try Again

Yesterday I tried posting an entry 3 different times. Each time only the titled showed up. I have no idea what is up with that. Today I’m posting from Lauren’s computer. Yesterday I was using Michael’s because I don’t have a computer of my own – which is a crying shame! Please pray that a bag of money falls from the sky right at my front door step – or the back door step – I’m not picky.

Yesterday I was trying to post about Lauren’s soccer try outs at Lipscomb University on Saturday. They had a Prospect camp for the soccer staff to see the high school girls play soccer to choose for their team. Lauren has wanted this since the first time she stepped on their awesome soccer field in 9th grade.

Today is the day. Coach O’Brien said on Saturday that we would find out yesterday or today. I’m a nervous wreck. I want this so bad for her. This is the one goal that she has had consistently for four years.

Please pray with me that she will make the team. I can’t accept that this seed has been planted and spent four years growing  and just as it’s getting ready to bloom something would kill it. So I am basically begging God at this point. I’m staring at the flower waiting for the very second that it bursts into a beautiful, full and vibrant colored flower. I’m afraid if I blink for one millisecond that I will miss it or that while my eyes are closed someone will pass by and snip it off before it blooms.

I have tried over and over again to give it up to God. Like it is a blanket and we both have ahold of it. He keeps saying to let go because He can take care of it. I guess I’m scared to relinquish the control. As a matter of fact I’m sure that’s what it is.

After I make sure this posts I’m gonna email the coach. At least then I will be sure to still be holding a corner of that blanket.

Please God!!!


What Makes A Proper Coach?

This blog post pretty much wrote itself yesterday evening. Once you see the subject matter you will be thankful that I waited until today to write it instead of last night. I still don’t know how it’s gonna turn out. My mind is going in so many directions that it’s kind of hard to pick a path and stick with it. We shall see!

Last night Michael had a soccer game. Now as a quick review about our high school soccer team we began high school in 2008 with a very BAD coaching situation. It was very discouraging for ALL the students (and parents). I think the first season the girls won 1 game. Thankfully in 2010 the soccer coaching staff got an overhaul. We were all relieved and excited to be starting fresh with young coaches who seemed to get along well with the players. It was a difficult transition because our players weren’t used to REALLY being coached. But it was good for them. Eventually they began to settle into the new routine and our teams have been better. We are all grateful for the school giving soccer a chance and throwing a little money our way so that our students could carry a sense of pride with them game to game.

Last night I learned a few things about our soccer coach (also a teacher at our school) and his behavior about/toward our boys. My kids have told me before about his behavior during halftime and post game talks with the team. It is a behavior that is NOT condusive to appropriate mentorship of students or even appropriate treatment from one person to another. Last night I discovered that at times this teacher joins in and agrees with other students who are picking on another player’s skills. And let me say that this is not done in a way to change behavior but more in a way that is hurtful to the student.

Let’s stop right here just a minute and discuss what a coach is. An effective coach not only teaches students the mechanics behind playing a sport. But he teaches teamwork, proper treatment of other teammates and the opposing team, good sportsmanship, respect not only to refs and coaches but to other players and he should also be exhibiting all of this behavior himself so that his players will be led by example. Belittling, name calling, cursing and disrespecting has NO PLACE on the sideline by players or, above all, COACHES! What does that type of coaching result in? A team full of one man teamplayers, belittling one another AND refs/coaches, cursing at team members and opposing teams and refs and other coaches. Above all it teaches that disrespect is ok and is a means to get what you want.

Did you know that cursing is against the rules in soccer? A player can be carded for cursing. In our case our refs should be carding some coaches as well. Cursing is UNACCEPTABLE! Not only is it rude and disrespectful but it has always been a sign to me of someone with limited vocabulary. Are you more likely to follow in the steps of someone who attempts to guide you via cursing, yelling and belittling? Of course not! What makes an adult think that is an appropriate means of coaching teenagers? That is the most ridiculous excuse for “leading” I have heard of. You expect your players to respect you when you talk to them and treat them that way.

I understand that it is difficult to be a teacher. I know it’s frustrating having your hands tied. I know all of those teenagers all day long can get on your nerves. However, you choose the teaching profession. I believe teaching is a calling. Not everyone can do it. And if a teacher has resorted to leading in the manner I have seen then they either 1) need disciplining themselves by their upline or 2) need a new job.

Ron and I have never allowed our children to quit anything they have started. There has been once before when Lauren was about 8 when she had a very tough (but very disciplined) soccer coach. It was a bad fit. He taught her a lot of what she knows today but he had a very gruff way of communicating. It was too much for her. So we allowed her to move teams. But we have always told the kids if they committed to a team then they were going to stay committed. Quitting was never allowed. And all of you know that soccer is our game. We eat, sleep and breathe soccer. But last night when we got home we had a family meeting with Michael and we gave him permission to quit soccer. I’m very proud of him because he said he couldn’t just quit – that we had always taught them not to quit – and even though he was very unhappy with the immaturity of his team members and the disrespect displayed he felt like he would be letting them all down. If you know Michael then you know that he is wise and mature beyond his years. He happens to have a good relationship with this coach. He and the coach have more of a peer relationship than a player/coach relationship. While he doesn’t agree with coach’s methods he understands his frustration. We pointed out that coach is only going to receive the amount of respect that he gives to them. So as of now Michael is choosing not to quit. I’m very proud of him.

But I am very disgusted with this coach. One player walked off the field in the middle of the game and quit the team last night. Another one was on his way after being ridiculed by coach and his teammates during games and at school. Ron and I stopped him and calmed him down. As a concerned parent Ron and I will be dealing with this matter in one manner or another. This is not how you lead students. This is not how you treat OTHER PEOPLE in general. Someone needs some correcting or nothing is going to get better.

I’m on it!

Childhood Athletics and a Healthier Life

What a week! This time last weekend I was dreading this week because I knew I was having my RFA procedure again (explain that in a minute), had soccer games to go to and Ron was gonna be out of town. But some how I survived it and I didn’t even get stressed out. THAT is a God thing for sure!

Lauren’s final high school soccer season ended Thursday. They are playing in the District Tournament on Monday this coming week. But until she picks a college and we get her there she is done with organized soccer. I feel very good about it. Putting a child into an organized sport is so good for them. They learn so many skills – not just athletically but also a lot of character building skills. Our kids have played sports their entire childhood. I know that will serve them well for the rest of their lives. They learn responsibility, how to work as part of a team, self-control, anger management (wait that was MY lesson), how to live a healthy active lifestyle. All of are skills they will use in every area of their life for the rest of their lives. And I have no doubt we have set a standard for future generations in our family line.

Lady Eagles Soccer Seniors of 2012

Last fall I had a series of medical procedures done to help treat my daily headaches. It’s no surprise to any of you here that I suffer with chronic pain daily. If you’ve even stopped by my blog once you’ve probably picked up on that. The procedure I had done is called Radio Frequency Ablation (RFA). I went to my previous blog entry from last year where I talked about the process. I could pretty much write the exact same words to explain the procedure itself and my reactions during/after it to a degree. However there was one significant difference. Last year both procedures (one on each side of the neck) threw me into a major Fibromyalgia flare up for at least a week afterwards. This time for this first round it really only put me out of commission for 1 1/2 days. I even had a different doctor do it this time (not my choice) and there was MUCH more pain involved. What’s different about this time? The only thing I’m doing different this time is using the AdvoCare. For the last 5 1/2 months I have been drinking at least one Spark a day, taking daily doses of CorePlex and using the BioTools product daily. In some obvious ways, I can tell a big difference since I began using AdvoCare. And at times like this, when I would normally be in a flare, my health has improved dramatically.

Well, this coming week is Fall Break. That may mean a break from school for the kids. But I think that means the opposite for the parents. So, I’ll see ya when I see ya!

The Last Game At Home





Last night was the last home game for the Fall 2011 soccer season. That means that the girls in these pictures have played their last high school soccer game on their home field. We still have 3 games in the season but they are away games. They are all holding flowers that Coach Boyd’s husband brought for them. It was a sweet and very touching moment. Most of these girls started playing freshman year together. And that doesn’t seem to have been 4 years ago.

I know I say this at least once a week but the time just goes so fast. The older they get the faster the time goes. These girls have become like my own kids. I don’t know what the future holds for them but I pray it will be nothing but awesome! They are good girls. There has been lots of drama over the 4 years. But the smiles you see on their faces are there because they have pulled through together and worked as a team not just on the field but in life as well.

Next Thursday is Senior Night. So the school will be recognizing senior athletes. There will be more pictures. I know you can’t wait! 😉

Laundry, Soccer and the Bible

As we learned in Friday’s 3 in 30 update entry July was pretty much a bust! But I’m stoked and ready for August. First of all I’m stoked for August because the kids go back to school. That means no more traveling and no more whining about being bored. Yes teenagers still whine. And it is even more annoying…ok, that might be stretching it a bit…but it IS annoying. Both of my children will be seniors this year. So my August goals mainly focus on them. I can’t believe that this time next year we will be getting them ready to head off to their chosen colleges. I certainly am NOT old enough to have children this old. In my mind they are still in elementary school and I am still going to their classes a couple of times a week to volunteer. Oh well, I’m sure the next 365 days will be full of my own whining about this topic. Today’s purpose is to set goals for myself for August. So on with the goals!

I know you will all be surprised by my first goal – especially if you are a regular at 3 in 30. As a matter of fact you can probably repeat it with me. Are you ready?

1. Do at least one load of laundry a day. Why do I cringe every time I type the word “laundry”? All I really want out of life is to be like Meghan at The Tuckers Take Tennessee. I don’t even really need to LOVE doing laundry like she does. I’d settle for a mild level of tolerance. As it is now I despise it. I remember the days when I didn’t mind it at all. In fact I remember the days when I actually enjoyed it. When we lived in Joelton our laundry room was downstairs along with our homeschool classroom. I felt like such a housewife spending every morning downstairs teaching my children and keeping the laundry going. Anyway, I’m gonna get depressed if I keep focusing on laundry. I really want to hire Meghan to come to my house every day and do my laundry for me.


2. Since this is the kids’ last year of school that means it is their last year of playing soccer unless they play in college. What is my day to day life gonna be like with soccer? Focus Pam Focus!!! My goal for August is to go to every game whether I am dying or not. I would like to go to every practice too but I know that may not always be a possibility. But I don’t want to lose a single second of cheering on my kids. Soccer has been a part of my life since the kids were 5 and 6. That is approximately twenty-two soccer seasons times two children – FORTY FOUR SOCCER SEASONS. The end of this school year will be the end of that. Oh my word! Now I’m getting depressed. Thankfully Lauren is planning to go to Lipscomb University here in Nashville. So I can go over there to watch her play and cheer her on. Michael is planning to go to Tennessee Tech University in Cookeville. That’s about an hour away. So, I can even take a road trip over there to see him play if he chooses to do so. But as for August I will be at every single game and as many practices as I can get to. The same will go for the spring when Michael plays his last season as well.

Lauren at the Lipscomb soccer field

3. Bible study with Ron. Ron and I are planning on renewing our vows next June. Prior to that event we are gonna do our own “premarital” post marital counseling/study each Wednesday night here at home. If you are a regular reader of my blog you know that we have had our share of struggles in the past – doesn’t everyone – and have sought out counseling a number of times. This time we are gonna do a couple’s Bible study together and reinforce all we’ve heard and learned in the last 24 1/2 years of marriage. He has been on the look out for the right study for us. One study we are considerig is by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs called Love & Respect. The homework looks pretty intense. So, that is where my 3 in 30 goal comes in. I’ve found that unless I’m teaching I have a tendency to get behind on Bible Study homework. So my goal will be to find a study schedule that will work for me and plug myself into it.

Ok – there you have it! Now someone hold my feet to the fire and make sure I stay on track. Failure with these goals is not an option. These are investments into the future of my family. Ok, except for the laundry……………….UGH!!

If you need to set a goal for anything come to the 3 in 30 Challenge site and link up. Great means of support over there. And we encourage one another via Twitter as well.

Happiness At LP Field

I had many happy moments to share this week. But I try to share my Finding The Happy moments with my kids. This past Tuesday night we all attended this huge soccer game at LP Field – the local stadium where the Tennessee Titans play. As soon as I heard about it I knew that we HAD to go. I mean we are a HUGE soccer family. It was a no brainer. We had really good seats. The tickets were inexpensive. The men’s national team that played in the World Cup last year was playing Paraguay. We got to see all the players we had cheered on all through the World Cup. It was so excellent! THAT is where I get this week’s Finding The Happy picture!

This is just part of the group. The kids’ school teams went together – the guys team and the girls team. It was AWESOME!!! It made me happy to be right in the middle of all of them. I love these kids and am proud of each of them. I try to be the kind of Soccer Mom that they can come to for encouragement and advice if they need it. And they do that!

I’m sure you can Find The Happy from the last week that you have saved on your cell phone or in your camera. Why not go over to Mr and Mrs Wright’s blog and leave a comment sharing it? See you there!